on being rude
I don’t doubt for one minute that I’m ruder than your average person in real life. However, in blogland, where I have the chance to analyse and digest comments before replying, I find I’m usually able to softly temper my caustic edges and be polite to almost anyone.
On this blog, I post my opinions and I invite anyone who’s interested to comment. It’s useful and pleasant when people agree and offer up more information on the topic, but it can become really interesting when someone pipes up and disagrees. Because there are a lot of opinions and experiences in the world and I personally don’t think anyone is right or knows everthing. Not even me.
In the interests of keeping these posts open to comments from anyone dropping by who feels like they have an opinion, I thought it might be nice to try and avoid angry atheist pile-ons, embittered name-calling and cheeky taunting.
So I’d like to request that anyone reading the opinion of another person, or even having a long, frustrating conversation with someone they disagree with, or even just reading someone else’s long and frustrating conversation with someone else, refrain from calling the person they disagree with names like “dickhead” or “undereducated imbecile”.
I’d also like to request that people reading the opinion of another person of a religious persuasion refrain from taunting them about their clearly unfortunate and probably indoctrinated religion. It’s easy to make jokes about superstitious beliefs in invisible entities, but making them feel under attack isn’t conducive to productive dialogue.
Now, I hope I’m not being rude to anyone by requesting that people don’t be rude. I was very rude to someone yesterday because I’m lazy and don’t understand big words, so anything is possible.
No, thank you.
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I didn’t ask if you want a cup of tea.
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P.S. “…rude to anyone by requesting that people NOT be rude.”
Don’t worry. I don’t blame you, I blame Glasgow 😛
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I’m going to greet these Glasgow references with silence. Like there.
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Sincere apologies. No more Dickheads. You are right. They are free to express that God is perfectly at liberty to command genocide, the slaughter of innocents including dashing the brains of children, condoning the rape of wimmin and encouraging incestuous relationships all on the say so of an unverifiable entity.
This is the essence of free speech and such folk should be lauded for their sincere conviction.
Apologies to SOM, & Naivethinker….and while we are at it, just in case…. askthebigot, Ken Ham, Ron Wyatt, Hannibal Lechter, George W Bush, former English goalkeeper, David Seaman ( who was off his line and allowed Ronaldino to chip him in the World Cup) Ayatollah Khomeini, Pope Gregory IX, and Tomas de Tourquemada who are/were definitely not Dickheads at all.
Bless them one and all…
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Hahahaha! It is good to see you back
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Ok, sweets. You get the usual Snort of the Day Award. I had to give it to John in your absence and Arch nearly made it but I read something on myatheistlife first.
Still laughing on the third reading (no proofing errors that I can see either, faz favor)
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That’s more like it! Thanks for making an effort and being positive. 🙂
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On the other hand, I am polite in real life, and not too bothered in blogland. So I’ll tip toe off before I offend Ark or Pink or someone. Ms Faust possibly who no doubt is still lurking.
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Yeah, I think I was over selling myself, I’m not really rude in real life, just blunt on occasion. I doubt Bigot has time to lurk on posts like this.
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She lurked before and went off at me on her blog about something I wrote on here. Courtesy says, you reply to something on the appropriate blog. ie not being rude. Lurking and commenting elsewhere is as rude as the definitions you outlined above. Not that Ark is rude, I think he is a darling 😉 So is Pink.
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Oh please, don’t call Ark an darling, or Pink for that matter. They’re arrogant men that need kept in line.
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Of course they are. But they are quite sweet in their own sort of way, don’t you think? Anyway they can write what the hell they want on my blogs so long as it is not anti-feminist (please note that one Ark and Pink) or anti my dogs.
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I’d be lying if I said their little mannish outbursts aren’t quite cute on occasion. And Ark taught me everything I know about blogging (or was that Clare? think it was Clare, can’t think of anything I’ve learned from Ark right now) and Pink got me sucked into an alleged cohort of alleged cyberbullies, so each has contributed to my life in a special way. Except for Ark. Can’t think of what he’s done, but he’s till my best blogging buddy.
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Well I wasn’t even sucked into the alleged cohort but I still got treated with derision by she who shall not be named. He has nice dogs so that goes a long way with me.
I can tell you about blogging. What do you want to know? I’ve only being doing it for seven years though.
Clare posts pretty pictures and I learn some new painters from her.
No, I’m not sure what any of us learn from Ark. He does make me snort though. I think I am going to start a league table for snorts.
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I’ve got most of my post ideas from Clare, she finds really interesting stuff and discusses it all in a thought-provoking way. I usually forget about the pictures, but sometimes they catch my eye.
I’m going to work on my wordsmithing, because I got a couple of snorts of day at one point, and I think it’s a sad day when Ark overtakes me in anything … 😀
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At the moment, Ark is floods ahead, followed by John in his absence, and myatheistlife and um SoM. Andrew, who you don’t know also got one the other day, but he is above this sort of thing.
You will have to work very hard. Even when Ark is irritating, he is very very funny. (And sexist, and and and) Then you have to overtake John. And Arch (and Som?)….
It is hardly ever a post, it is a one-liner in a comment that just does it.
I rarely manage it. My finest hour was a BBL and something else coffee, I think, splattered all over the screen, from John.
Not easy to make people laugh 😀
I get most of my post ideas from me. A few from blogs but mostly mine. So original I am.
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should have been * unoriginal* oh well.
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What about feminist dogs? – or would that be a B****?
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I’ve never had a female dog so can’t speak for them. I have just had cantankerous male dogs. Pretty much par for the course really. Bossy aggressive and total total darlings. Moreso than you and SoM I suspect. But I’m willing to give you both the benefit of the doubt 😀
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Sort of like throwing the dog a bone, I guess? lol….
SOM’s a sweetie in an Original extra strong Fisherman’s Friend sort of way.
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FFs were horrible. Is that what you mean?
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Qui moi?
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Tu? Não, Nunca. If we are into mixing our lenguas.
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Otherwise known as Ana Palacio- long story. The daughter of the Marques and also a former minister.
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I have to admit that being called “boludo” and “pelotudo” and “troll” doesn’t exactly encourage civil conversation.
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😀 If you had written that earlier you could have had my Snort of the Day Award. Too funny. But I snorted at Ark first so he pipped you.
Actually I had to look all those up, we don’t use them in my pueblo. We are unimaginative, and stick to coño. (Which naturally, being a feminist, I don’t approve of).
If someone calls me a troll, I clear off.
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Rough,
Atheists call anyone who offers reasoned arguments trolls.
The goes for feminists, too.
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That would get my snort award, if I had one.
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Um, I don’t think that’s true. As an atheist and a feminist I don’t call anyone a troll. Certainly not you as you’ve not commented on my blogs, so I would be less hasty with your generalisations.
Or did you mean that as feminists offer reasoned arguments they get called trolls? 🙂
Incidentally could you please call me roughseas please? Rough implies slightly derogatory sexist language. Many thanks.
roughseas.
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Rough,
You must not have been present during the conversation that took place here.
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Possibly not. Please redirect me and I will read and reply. Otherwise I have no idea what you are talking about. I did request roughseas. Or is that too long to type?
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Oh well, at least that proves you’ve never been to Argentina. Boludo and pelotudo are usually used affectionately, like gordo (fatty) and narigon (big nose). I won’t call you a troll anymore because I can see that upsets you. I’ll delete the post if you like, I extended the same courtesy to Keith, who isn’t a troll either.
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Wisp,
Since you and I are on a “usted” basis, not a “tu” basis,your use of Argentine slang is very inappropriate.
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Sorry Violet, got to say it, but he got an almost snort for that one too. Loved the distinction between tu and usted.
still don’t know why he hssn’t found clouds to clog up my posts but I am maybe too boring
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Rough,
Wisp’s use of vulgar Argentine expressions is similar to black people’s use of the word, “nigger.”
It may be a term of endearment among people who hold a certain confidence among themselves, but the term is still extremely vulgar.
“Pelotudo” and “boludo” mean “stupid idiot.”
I just never thought calling people “stupid idiot” was anything less than insulting and low class.
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And again, you don’t speak Argentinian Spanish. You got that translation through Google, which uses Spain Spanish definitions. Oh the lies! I’m so disappointed SOM.
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Violet,
You don’t know what you’re talking about. It’s as simple as that.
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Well, now we have definitive proof that you lie. You obviously know nothing of Argentinian Spanish, in spite of claiming you speak Spanish with an Italian accent because you lived there. In Argentina, no-one uses ‘tu’ – they use ‘vos’. What else have you been lying about SOM? I bet you never lived in a South Seas island either!! 😉
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Wisp,
“Vos” is Argentine but “tu” is proper Spanish that each Argentine learns in school and knows like the back of their hand.
“Vos” is an archaic usuage that most Spanish speakers do not use.
Since I live in America using “vos” draws unwanted attention.
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Sounds like someone’s been googling again! Well done, I like people who use initiative when they’re trapped in the lying corner. 🙂
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Wisp,
I told you that I learned to speak Spanish while I lived in Argentina.
But I live in the States where most Spanish speaking people are from Mexico and Central America.
Consequently, I adapted my Spanish for where I live and the people I associate with.
It’s been years and years since I used “vos.”
Nevertheless, just for your information, Argentines use the “tu” form of verbs and not the “vosotros” form which is reserved for royalty or people of great stature.
So me referring to the “tu” and “usted” and not “vos” and “usted” is perfectly correct even for Argentines especially when talking about Spanish grammar.
You must be a very hateful, angry person to accuse me of lying when you are so absolutely ignorant of the subject in question.
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Sorry SOM, I don’t know what got into me. You’ve certainly proved you have a firm grasp on Argentinian culture and language.
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No problemo.
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(sniggers, I am loving this exchange)
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I wonder where in Argentina SOM lived?
How about it SOM…. would that be too much for tu to reveal or would be afraid of being usted?
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I see you are well back ahead, after your brief absence, for the snorts award. That was tu tu clever.
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It is very hard not to be rude to religious people. I know, I can get right poisonous sometimes (both in the net and in real life) when I am hammering a point through. However, it is sometimes very difficult to predict what the religious person shall take as rude. I try not to submit to name calling, but religious people are easily offended for calling out their supernatural characters as what they appear in their holy scriptures. It seems many religious people (not all though) identify very strongly to their heroes. Gods appear more as an alter ego for them, and then they take it very personally, if you refer to their holy books in which their gods do something they themselves would not appriciate.
My line is, that I try to be as civil as I would appriciate the other person to be. For example, I would not be offended by being called gay – though I am not – because I do not find that as shamefull existance, but someone else might, if they feel it is ikky and that their god agrees whith them about the subject of it being ikky. Sometimes that kind of use of words is obvious as in my example, but sometimes I only afterwards realize that the other party was offended by me saying stuff like a god that promotes slavery in “his” holy book is not worthy of worship, even if it existed and was responsible for the existance of the universe.
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I can’t imagine you ever getting poisonous, Raut. Any time I’ve followed a conversation you’ve had with a Christian you’ve been really polite. Do you have a lot of arguments in person with Christians? I don’t know many these days, and the ones I do know aren’t in any way harmful with their beliefs, so I’m happy to leave them to their comfort, whatever that is.
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Oh, thanks Violetwisp. I rather would not see myself as poisonous, but sometimes my sense of humour gets the better of me, and I might regret the tone I told someone what I really thought. It does not happen often though.
I occasionally speak whith Christians in person. I try as hard as I can to be polite and not be patronizing, but in the end they most often do not like to continue on the subject whith me for very long. Most Christians are really ignorant about their own religion and the history of it, and those that are not often have the most twisted set of morals, that they get entangled in by themselves.
I also have a couple of personal friends who are Christian and who have a very secular view on morals and whith whom we can discuss these issues as issues, not as pieces of our personality as much as aspects of world views. There are other religions among my personal friends whith whom I can also speak about religion quite freely.
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That’s a corker of a shot, btw. No relation to SOM, by any chance?
(My dad was on the phone the other week jumping for joy at having seen a Chaffinch for the first time in the garden)
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Oh, a tit joke? Like it! I do love you Ark, you’re totally my best blogging buddy. I don’t know why Rough thinks you’re funny though.
I’ve got a Chaffinch coming up. But it’s really difficult getting photos of birds when a two-year old is screaming about the place and running on to the road every time I point and shoot, so I think my catalogue will be limited. Not quite hummingbirds but lovely all the same.
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roughseas…she hates ”Rough”
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Oh I know, but SOM made it sound so endearing I thought she might have changed her mind. 😉
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I don’t hate it, I prefer roughseas for some reason. encapsulates the agua. anyway stop talking about me behind my back. A woman can’t go to sleep without finding someone is gossiping.
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Hi Violet,
Very thoughtful of you to have wwritten this post.
I’ve had myself a share in the rudeness of some bloggers, for whom the cheapest and most handy argument oftentimes is name calling and bullying.
I’ve learned my lessons and decided to avoid those blogs where these people usually exhibit themselves, but I would have to quit blogging altogether one day, because they show up everywhere, and from all persuasions, preying on the kindness and tolerance of the blog’s host, as they seem to be very fond of rather other bloggers’ pastures.
They pretend to be champions for their cause, yet being nothing else than pathetic mirrors of the causes they “fight” against.
I’ve been called several times “idiot” and “stupid” for nothing else but standing by my opinion, which dared to be different of theirs. Blogging seems to be an especially fertile spawning ground for people who would otherwise remain silent, or think twice before name calling an individual over 6 ft tall☺
These people make their case against religious intolerance, by becoming examples of atheist intolerance?
Which one is better?
Which one can be justified?
If they can not persuade their opponent and thus win the argument, they have to resort to abusive language?
What’s next?
Concentration camps and/or gulags for the “otherwise” thinkers?
I have no problem with irony, nor sarcasm, as they are both sharper tools of an intellectual dispute, but name calling is neither, besides proof of “what lies beneath”…
I’m not against foul language, as it has its place, but not in an argument against either theism or atheism, or any other intellectual endeavour…
At least in my opinion.
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“These people make their case against religious intolerance, by becoming examples of atheist intolerance?” I totally agree with you. It’s utterly pointless to treat other people badly. And apart from encouraging them to disengage with others who hold opposing views to theirs, there’s the real danger of pushing people into a defensive corner, where they cherish their harmful beliefs even more. Extremism is bred under attack. Anyway, thankfully most people are fine here so far, just the occasional unnecessary name calling …
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Again, you’ve made an exceptional contribution posting this.
May Mak bless you☺
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Makagutu? Is he giving out blessings these days? I’ll have to ask him where mine is … 🙂
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Ya didn’t know? Mak is the father of a committee, Neuro and I are members, all are all-knowing and infailable, but only Mak is holy, so he gives the blessings, but no one knew about it so far, because I have just infailably decided it now, so Mak and Neuro have no idea about. Amen
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😀
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When does abrasive become rude?
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Probably when the D’heads state we are ”sponsored” by the Devil, going to hell or that they will pray for us. Oooh, that one always burns.
Anyone that champions the abuse of kids through religion is worthy of every epithet ,and D’head is a balm considering what they truly deserve.
Should Ken Ham and his ilk really be afforded respect?
How about those wonderful folk over at ACE schools?
Methinks, the religious have held centre stage for far too long.
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Oh Ark, thank you for graciously swooping down to save all those children from the evils of Christianity, by making all Christians think that atheists are hate-filled ranters who use foul language. What would Atheism do with you? 😀
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(I meant to say ‘without you’ but ‘with’ looks kind of cool ..)
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As Matt has stated, (paraphrase) Gentle is good…and sometimes so is rough.
I always think of those kids, hands together, eyes screwed up tight, trembling with fear so great they are almost wetting themselves, praying fervently to ”God” to save them from Hell for pinching a biscuit or something.
It always comforts me when faced with trying to hold a rational conversation with out dear religious brethren.
And then I think..Nah…FTS.
”Dominos, sanctions and parties.”
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No idea what you’re rambling on about. I’m going to do another patronising post about how to behave though. Actually, it’s after 10pm, I might just go to bed …
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Of course you don’t.
But why write such strident, religiously denigrating posts in the first place, and also lay into people like Brandon, Askthebigot, Your Catholic buddies & Wotsitsdiner etc if you are subsequently going to chew my ear off?
Most peculiar.
Shrugs
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I disagree. I write factual posts with pointed commentary about the Bible and other things Christians write, and I’m not sure I ever ‘lay into’ anyone (except for you, you’re special that way). I’m never rude to them, I never call them names (Bigot is self-styled as Bigot, and I use the name she gave herself). I stick to the topic of conversation and discuss why I think they’re wrong. A couple of times on Bigot’s blog people have asked me why I’m commenting, questioned my motives or called me a troll, so I explain why I think the stance she takes is harmful to other people. Can you not see the difference? Maybe it’s my green to your red. (I’ve learned a lot from Keith)
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Yes, you most certainly have a way with your religious visitors, of this there is no doubt. But sometimes the message gets lost in the words and ”Dickhead” cuts through the dross and as a poetic refrain it definitely has a je ne sais quoi quality to it.
But of course, I don’t use that word anymore so bang goes the poetry.
This blog used to be so refined..so cultured. Sigh…I’ll now have to bone up on Philosophy and CS Lewis.
Eeek!
Where are my Rennies?
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I agree. This blog was cultured and refined until you scared PeW away with your nasty attitude. And he didn’t even say goodbye 😦 (I’m guessing this face)
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😥
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Ah..the blame game. S’alright. Long as I don’t scare John away or Arch…Come to think of it, he hasn’t forgiven me for getting him kicked off that other Christian site – just because he fancied her I think?
Don’t tell him I said this as he’ll whine about it all over again and I know he never lurks.
Shall I extend the Mistletoe branch to Naivethinker and SoM?
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Oh don’t worry about Arch. I doubt he’ll be lurking round here again – he seems to dislike me almost as much as Naivethinker.
You could start by apologising to SOM and Naivethinker. That’s nice of you to think of it.
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Anyway, here’s some light reading for you:
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/04/16/sex-scandal-rocks-the-duggars-christian-patriarchy-movement.html
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I read the name ”Jim Bob” and that was enough to almost make me hurl….so I stopped reading.
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Hehe, that made me laugh too.
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Laugh? A very brief look at that ‘family’ photo brought the unbidden thought of some really odd couplings.
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And where on earth are you finding this material?
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A friend sent me it. It’s not so obscure is it? There are lots of bloggers talking about the quiverfull movement. I didn’t realise there was a reality TV show about it.
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This Duggar family is quite the rage here in America. They haul their family around in a tour bus. :rollseyes:
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Are you ever either? You usually manage to couch your insults in acceptable language, and have so much overwhelming facts thrown about that they probably don’t have time to realise it’s personal. 😕 That’s my new face, do you like it? I’m putting it in all my comments tonight.
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That’s not a human emotion. Who’s typing on Violets keyboard?
Do you have an emoticon for intrigued, but a little weary?
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Maybe SOM’s invaded me. Have you been away on holiday? Or are you weary because you went to the Big Dirty City?
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No big dirty city today. I have a cold, though, so perhaps i should’ve gone down and spread it around the Paulistanas like the Easter Bunny handing out eggs. Oh, here i need an emoticon for wicked. You got one?
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😈
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Oh clever!
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I’ll make these up and see what happens.
👿
:wicked:
:bad:
:nasty:
:rude:
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Only 👿 then.
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Are you serious, is that all you have to do?
:wicked:
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Duh! It’s Dinosaur Zande, I forgot. Hover your mouse over any emoticon to see what it is. Have you been copying and pasting??
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Ahhhh…. 👿
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Let’s try :happy:
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Is it possible to get colds in Brazil? Surely the combination of heat and fruit keeps you in tip top shape.
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Apparently not. I’ve gone through an orchid of oranges since Saturday and they’ve only seemed to annoy the cold. I guess the Portuguese buggered fruit up, too.
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Cholera?
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;?
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Don’t mind me, i just using your blog to expiriment.
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I google ‘Clare Flourish emoticons’ when I want to find one. A random post about Baroness someone comes up and the list in the comments section.
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Here, I’ll make it easy for you because you probably can’t use Google very well:
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You pointed me to that last week, but i can’t remember all those options.We adopted a new dog so i’m in “dog whisperer” mode. It takes a lot of concentration
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Oh, do share your secrets. We’ve adopted a dog this week. She’s somewhat of a….menace.
I’ve tried the “dog whisperererer” thing.
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You got your dog! Yay 🙂 Do tell.
By menace you mean chewing everything? That happens. They’ll grow out of it. Bit of “WTF! Noooo!” helps them learn.
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She’s a two-year-old pointer mix; a rescue dog. 😀
We’ve handled her with kid gloves because it’s pretty apparent she’s been abused which I’m afraid has established her as the pack leader.
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Did anyone tell you of her history? If she has been abused (or even starved of attention/love) you might just need to give her some time to adjust. Thing is, you have to work with her. Mostly that just means spending time with her. Is she good on a leash? If so, walks are fantastic, but if she’s a little freaked about it then use a body harness, not a choker.
Our new boy is a saint, and he had to be to fit in. We have a Borris (who was abandoned in our area). Borris is huge, adores humans, is excitable and about as funny as a dog can be… and he will kill another dog if it gets with a foot. He’s terrible. Fortunately our other dog, Sam, is more insane than he is, so when he arrived it took her 3 minutes to out-crazy him, and that was that: BBF’s. Introducing the new dog (named, Brother) was terrifying. Surprisingly, the adjustment however happened quickly. Brother is not only a monk, but an Einstein too, and as we acclimatised the two on either side of a gate he didn’t react to anything bully Borris did, leaving the big boy a tad confused about what to do. We kept them separated for two days, but took them both on walks together… but never so close that Borris could rip his throat out. I think that was the trick. Doing things together helped Borris accept him into the fold, but the full credit goes to Brother himself.
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I meant to ask: What kind of dogs do you have? And what about this new one?
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Three dogs, three cats (plus two “clients” who come at night). Sam is a hound/whippet type masterpiece of organic design, and has a dramatic Shakespearean personality. Borris is some sort of giant blonde Frankenstein mix (i think mix) of Belgium Sheppard, a 1960’s surfer dude, the Hoover Dam, and a psychotic killer… but only toward other dogs. He’ll fight anything, and at about 45 kilos is rather hard to pull in-line. He’s also a baritone. Brother, new dog, is a bit of everything, including a Zen Master.
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Up until last Monday we had one cat, Scamper. On top of adopting Dottie, we’ve also taken in a stray cat we’re call Stumpy because her hind left leg has been chopped off. We’re not sure if it got caught in some kind of trap or got caught in a car’s engine works.
Dottie’s about 25 kilos. She should be a bit more, though. Her foster family found her about two months ago in a median in front of their house malnourished and just about dead. Their speculation is that she was intended as a hunting dog(being a pointer mix and her tail was docked). She hates gunfire. She was very attached to her foster family and when we got her home she was quite skittish with both of us. She has completely warmed up to me now, but is still quite skittish of TheBrit. She is quite curious about him and will accept treats and come up to him and let him pet her when he’s sitting down. She doesn’t like it when he’s standing. He’s quite tall and towers over her.
We did have a trainer down to give us some pointers because at first all she would do was back up and bark and growl at him, even after she warmed up to me. We think part was fear and part was because I was her “person” she was a bit jealous. In a week and a half’s time she’s begun piling onto the sofa with us like a baby. She thinks she’s a 5 kilo dog.
She willingly leashes up for me to walk her. She doesn’t let TheBrit leash her up but she will go for a walk with him after I’ve leashed her. When I walk her she tends to pull. A lot. She tries to drag me around the neighborhood.
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Dottie sounds perfect, and good on you two! I know what you mean about the pulling. We tried a professional on both Sam and Borris and nothing really changed.
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Oh, and she counter-surfs and jumps up on me pretty badly. I’m working on those things. I had been given advice to try a choke-collar for the walking but that’s really not a think I want to do. She does sit, but only for treats. I’ve been trying to make her sit and wait for me to go out the door first on exit and then sit and wait for me to go inside first upon return.
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Oooh, rescue dog talk 🙂
I did quite well with Snowy (rubbish bin at a couple of days old) with come and sit. Then I started on down and he got very good at that. In fact, instead of saying no or leave, I just say down and he stops anyway 😀
The place I got snows’ harness from has US outlets and does international mail order. They do a double lead to guide the dog, I’ve not used it, but it maybe an idea. Great service, I wrote about them on my dogblog. I’ll add the links.
Snows is a Spanish hunting dog (Podenco) and totally hyper. They usually get used for a couple of years and then hung from trees when their prime years of usefulness are over. Bastards (sorry violet, except I’m not at all). He needs a lot of attention. I think we’ve had him around eight months.
Here’s my post about the harnesses and other products. The previous post mentioned them too. I need to update poor old Pippa’s dogblog 😦
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Dottie does quite well with come. When she begins to drag me I stop completely and make her come to me. Then we begin again.
She’s been so skittish I haven’t tried a harness on her, yet, but she does have a Kong brand harness that her foster parents sent her with. I may give that a go.
I checked out the link you posted. I’ll have a look around those websites as well. Thanks!
Pippa is gorgeous and Rat is a little cutie! 😀
I don’t think Violet will mind you calling dog hangers Bastards. That is what they are.
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Pippa is indeed gorgeous, thank you. Another abandoned street dog 😦 we’ve been offered money for him and people here in Gib run up to him to hug him when they don’t even know him. Rat is not remotely as gorgeous but he gets his fair share of attention, oddly from the men. I suspect a lot of them recognise the hunting dog in him.
It’s an ancient breed. Ignore the text on this site, because it doesn’t strike me as accurate, but the white plaster dog a couple of pix down is the image of Rat.
http://blackhistoryfactorfiction.com/the-science-of-dogs/
I am expecting a dog post from you in the near future 🙂
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Yes, I was planning one. 🙂
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🙂 That will be good, better than silly old religion 😀
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I’m working on some good photos. Got a couple of really good ones, I think, this morning. I wanted to include my little Scamper, too. So probably over the weekend it’ll go up. 😀
Yes, far better than silly old religion. If it didn’t impact me so much(it’s everywhere around here) I probably wouldn’t talk so much about it. Whereas before I blogged about it from a cathartic perspective, now I find it’s a really interesting topic. But I do want to take my blog in a different direction and write about some other things. Or I may start a new one for that. Not sure yet.
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Excellent 🙂 I’ll be taking some of Snows and Pippa at the weekend hopefully.
I spoke to someone else about specific blogs and whether or not to change them and start new ones.
When you have a following on one blog, and you want to move add additional posts, I would advise sticking to that one blog. It’s personal so you can do that and mix and match.
He was talking about adding pet posts, I think that’s fine on a personal blog, most people like to read them anyway 🙂
It’s a balance between having a serious blog, but some light pieces, that people enjoy. Or having a light blog that no-one reads because they light serious ruth. More people read roughseas than clouds. More people read Pippa’s when I was on blogger than any of my blogs 😀
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Linky to the post:
Btw, Violet, if you see this: I’m very sorry for going completely off-topic on your post. How rude! 🙂
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We tried all these things, eventually gave up 🙂
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Oh, so they just drag you around then? 😀
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Yup 😦 🙂
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Hahahaha! Gulp.
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Did you read my comment about the guiding lead? I’ve not tried it, because Snows is small enough that I can manage him. Might be worth a thought with a newish dog though. Pippa (30 kgs plus) is just too big for me ever since he pulled me over on a cat hunt and demolished my right arm. Check out the Dog Games link on my blog post that I added to my reply to Ruth.
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I can’t see a dog games link.
Why aren’t i following your blog? Where is your follow widget thingy?
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It’s on the dog blog link. You need to read the dog blog post to find the links about dog games (name of firm), harnesses, leads etc.
I have no idea? Probably because I don’t write about religion. It bores the hell out of me.
Do you mean, my dog blog, my land rover blog, my not a photo blog, my clouds blog (I did write a one-off on religion there and even mentioned what a fine chap you were, but I also said Ark was too, so Vi will strike me off for that), oh and my main one is roughseas which is really boring about living an expat life in gib and spain.
Someone else asked my about the follow thingy. Um, click on blog, and click on follow, top left. I did add it to roughseas after the other person asked for it. I try and avoid crap on the sidebar. I’m sure you’ll work it all out 🙂
I think all my blogs are on my gravatar.
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That’s a cool harness (the one in the video), but why is it special?
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It’s the fit, hence perfect fit. Vicky is happy with her whatever it is called one. When it gets chewed you can renew the different bits. The fleece means it doesn’t rub on the dog’s fur. It’s also strong, I needed strong for the Little Rat because although he’s small, he has a ferocious pulling power and broke his earlier harness that was just plain useless. He is wicked. He is now doing mad half hour before bed time.
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Ours are leather. Borris is on his third leash, though.
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😎
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Oh I like that one. Let me try: 😎 Just chillin’
Nice post by the way Violet.
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Don’t touch that, it’s mine! 😎
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😥 Oh man too bad – cuz nothing I like more than chillaxin’. 😀
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I noticed on other posts and comment threads how you illustrate a nasty habit of some atheists to pretend to be a psychiatrist and offer character evaluations (and slams) for those they disagree with. Now that is rude. It is best to stay to the arguments. But red herrings seems everyone’s favorite fish! 🙂
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Thanks for taking the time to analyse my commenting style, I’m thoroughly flattered. I’ve noticed that you tend to rub people up the wrong way on occasion but I haven’t been able to read enough of your comments (through sheer boredom) to find out why. How’s that for rude?! 😀
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Yeah, anti-religion atheists (“all religion is bad, religious people are stupid”) get very annoyed with me. I never understood why — as I am actually very fluffy and lovable.
And I guess you called my comments boring. Nah, that ain’t rude, if it is your assessment.
Won’t bore you any more.
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Oh, my apologies, I thought we were playing a ‘rude’ game. You say something silly about me, I say something silly about you … 😉
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Oh, I re-read my comment. I wrote poorly, it should have said:
“I noticed on other posts and comment threads how you
illustrate[point out the a nasty habits [of others who] ….”Was that the misunderstanding?
I like how you criticize atheists who criticize the character of their opponent, rather than sticking to the issue.
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Ah, indeed, it does make sense now! Yes, we agree, people have a tendency to get unnecessarily personal about others instead of sticking to the discussion topic in hand. I don’t like crowding people out of a conversation by attacking a wonky online perception of their personality, and I don’t like the possibility of people being intimidated about commenting if name-calling and personal attacks are ignored. I understand it get heated though. I had some racists comment on a recent post and found it difficult to be civil.
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Well, at least I’m not racist, hey?
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Every blog should have this as their “comment policy” 🙂
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Thanks for reminding me about this! I think I’ve not been following some of the suggestions lately …
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It’s easier said than done. I think I should print it off and have it stuck to my computer as a reminder 😃
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