evidence for the benefits of spanking
I will not give any more time to this debate; I will not be finding sources.
There endeth my participation here.
At the risk of further enraging fellow blogger ‘madblog’, I’d like to share this comment she made during a discussion on the use of physical pain to punish children.
Madblog and some of her chums think it’s perfectly reasonable for parents to use physical force on their children, from any age, in order to ensure compliance.
Citizen Tom quotes the Bible to aid his case:
Proverbs 23:12-14 New King James Version (NKJV)
12 Apply your heart to instruction,
And your ears to words of knowledge.
13 Do not withhold correction from a child,
For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die.
14 You shall beat him with a rod,
And deliver his soul from hell.
ColorStorm adds this piece of wisdom:
If I would draw a distinction between ‘beatings’ and a good bodily lesson, I would say scripture is correct with the idea of a rod. The hand is apt to be reflexive and immediate, where the paddle is a barrier, and done in love, without anger. Truly, this is going to hurt me more than it hurts you……..is a reality. Ask any parent.
Madblog and Insanity prefer to focus on being outraged by the insensitivity I show by re-sharing a story openly shared on the internet, and daring to have an opinion on parenting:
Your entire argument is dark and ugly,Violet. It reminds me of the controversy over breast feeding versus bottle feeding. 50 years ago you were a disgusting pervert if you breast fed but today you’re an epic failure at motherhood if you ever give your kid a bottle. Nothing has really changed, kids will thrive regardless, the real issue is that there are people in the world so harsh, so condemning,so judgmental of others, they really believe they have to right to abuse and shame people, to mock and ridicule them with no awareness or empathy for the challenges they face. Yes Violet, such things really are emotionally and psychologically abusive.
Which is a pretty darn good argument for spanking, of adults at least.
But at no point in any of these discussions do the supporters of parents’ rights to spank and beat with rods attempt to link their opinion on the matter to facts. At no point do they refer to sources or recommendations from any kind of professional body associated with childcare. At no point do they attempt to link their certainty on the matter to anything other than vague personal opinions and Bible quotes.
So this is an open call to people of a more sensible, scientific, thoughtful disposition to help me understand why anyone would protect an adult’s right to inflict physical pain on a child in the name of ‘discipline’. Anyone?